I’m Susan Bratton, a trusted hot sex adviser to millions. I get the lucky task of being a Dear Abby of sex. I love to help people learn how to have passionate lovemaking. I teach people bedroom communication skills, and the third leg of that stool, sexual health is all-important.
Men and women both take 20 minutes to half an hour to get their erectile tissue fully engorged. Men, because they can get a quick erection, think they’re ready in their minds. However, women are not ready at all, and so they don’t have orgasms from penetration.
So they want to have less sex over time instead of more sex. Sex doesn’t mean intercourse; it means we’re going to play with each other’s genitals, make out, have full-body sensual massages, or just try oral pleasuring techniques.
You need to get rid of the mentality of sex as intercourse and get into it as a play time to bring pleasure to each other and expand our pleasure palette to think “”What can I do that will in the next moment bring my partner more pleasure?”
Whether that’s “”I’m going down on you”” or “”You’re going down on me,”” or “”You’re giving me a genital massage,”” or “”I’m giving you a hand job.”” Many of those things fall by the wayside when couples default to penetrative sex.
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