Can gender roles exist in fluid, non-monogamous relationships? In this enlightening episode of Polyamorous Evolutions, Roy Graff and Susan Bratton explore the intersection of gender, power, and emotional responsibility in polyamory and open relating.
If you’ve ever questioned how masculine/feminine dynamics show up in poly relationships—or wondered how to maintain authentic connection while navigating multiple partners—this one’s for you.
What You’ll Discover in This Episode: Roy and Susan unpack:
How gender roles are expressed and challenged in non-traditional relationship structures
The importance of self-awareness and emotional safety when exploring open relating
Why “emotional labor” in polyamory often skews toward the feminine, and how to address it
Practical strategies to show up more consciously—no matter your gender identity
Timestamps 00:00 – Intro & setting the context 02:34 – Are gender roles still relevant in polyamory? 06:49 – Masculine/feminine energy: energetic archetypes, not biology 10:15 – Who does the emotional labor in non-monogamy? 13:02 – Fluidity, containers, and creating safety in relationships 17:45 – How Roy embodies masculine presence in multiple relationships 21:10 – The evolution of masculine energy: from control to conscious presence 25:30 – Emotional responsibility as a shared practice 29:45 – Final thoughts: mutual growth, maturity, and healing
Key Takeaways:
Gender roles don’t disappear in non-monogamy—they evolve.
Masculine energy is about presence, not control.
Feminine energy often brings emotional depth—but both partners must do the work.
Conscious relating means co-creating safety and honoring individual needs.
Non-monogamy requires maturity, clarity, and authentic communication.
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